🌿We All Have Trauma (Yes, Even You)

🌿We All Have Trauma (Yes, Even You)

Walking with a friend recently, we began talking about the launch of Navigate. As we walked, it became clear just how differently people define trauma.
For many, trauma is reserved for the “big” events - abuse, violence, accidents, war, loss
But my view is this: we all carry trauma.

It’s not about comparing wounds or minimising pain. It’s about understanding that trauma isn’t always what happened - it’s what happened inside us.

Ever find yourself reacting in ways you don’t fully understand?
Wondering why you’re so exhausted from holding it all together? Maybe even feeling unsafe in your own skin, your own body?

You could have had loving, well-meaning parents who worked all the time to provide for you. Maybe your physical needs were met, but your emotional needs?
Absent. Overlooked. Unseen.

To a child, this isn’t “nothing.” It’s a wound.
It’s a seed of neglect, abandonment, or loneliness that grows into patterns like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or emotional numbness.

Gabor Maté, a renowned physician and trauma expert, says it beautifully:
"Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you."

We’ve all shaped ourselves around our early experiences—
🔹Learning to silence our truth to keep peace.
🔹Shrinking ourselves to meet others' expectations.
🔹Sacrificing authenticity for attachment.

Some of these patterns we grow out of.
Some we carry for decades - with them subconsciously running our lives.

If slowing down feels unsafe… if you’re always bracing for the next thing…
That’s not just ‘how life is.’ That’s your inner child screaming for you to listen.

Need some help hearing what they’ve got to say?
🔹My purpose is about helping to hold that space with you
🔹To help you uncover the story beneath the response
🔹To bring compassion to the parts of us that learned to cope in ways we no longer need

Because here’s the truth:
If it’s not in your awareness, it’s likely running the show.

🌱 Healing isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong” with you.
It’s about remembering what shaped you, and choosing to live differently.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. You’re human.
And there is always a way home.